Stop Begging! Start Manifesting
Posted on April 27, 2009
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Do you remember that first spark of hope you felt when you watched The Secret? I clearly remember the desire that filled my heart, knowing that – Yes, I can make my dreams come true – FINALLY!
But how many of you soon saw that hope dwindle into frustration? How many of you (and be honest now) started muttering things like:
- “It seems to work for other people, but I just can’t get it right.”
- “I’m frustrated that sometimes I can get it to work, but sometimes I can’t. What’s the trick?”
- “Why am I having so much trouble?”
- “I think the universe is against me.”
- “I’m trying very, VERY hard but still nothing is happening!”
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. About 97% of people also couldn’t make the Law of Attraction work for them the first time round. Think about it, just like anything else, you have to practice many times before you see success. A child doesn’t learn to walk without falling over a couple of times, right?
But in practice, everything is easier said and done. When you’re frustrated, it’s hard to stay positive. And it’s especially harder to stay positive when the evidence all around you is screams negativity like the unstable economy or senseless acts of violence such as those recently seen in Mumbai.
And do you know what happens when you fail to stay positive? That’s right – you start attracting negative things in to your life.
So how can you make the Law of Attraction work for you – without getting frustrated? How do those who successfully implement the Law of Attraction do it with such confidence and finesse?
Well, here’s three quick tips so you will never feel frustrated or tired of begging from the universe, because you know how to start manifesting like a pro.
1. Allow Yourself To Receive
Just like a lost child who approaches a police officer and asks, “Excuse me Sir, can you tell me how to go to the post office? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you? Can you?” Well, if the child goes on and on asking, the police officer can’t even give an answer, right?
Well, it’s the same thing with your mind. If the only thing your mind is doing is transmit, transmit, transmit, the universe — which is trying to respond — can’t give you a single thing because you’re not allowing yourself to receive!
So, have the confidence in yourself and stop exhausting yourself by running around person to person begging for riches, and then wondering why nobody is dropping a penny in your cup (Hint: It’s because you’re running away too fast for them before they can even reach for their wallets).
Just think of your desires and leave it out there, go away, and trust that your cup will be filled with gold coins (or whatever it is you asked for) when the time is right.
2. Be Patient With Yourself
Receiving takes time.
Sadly, many people give up just a couple of steps before the finish line because they’ve decided that if it’s not working by now, it’s never going to work at all. Worse still are those who throw in more and more energy because they think that with more resources, the results will come faster.
This is like expecting 9 mothers to conceive and deliver a baby in 1 month. You also can’t bake cookies in half the time by doubling the temperature. You’ll incinerate those cookies to ashes!
In simple terms: Everything in this world has a natural development time, and this fact will not change no matter what resources you throw at it.
So relax and be patient. Remember that you too, as part of the universe, are also governed by the laws of the universe, and you cannot change the natural development time.
If you remember this, you will less likely work yourself up into frustration, or worse, push yourself into a downward spiral of negativity.
3. Support and Educate Yourself
Like the child who is learning how to walk, you need support. You also need to guidance on how to do it, and also the role models to look up to.
Many people give up because they think that “The Secret” is the “be all and end all” solution. Well, it’s NOT. “The Secret” is just a small portion. It was never intended, and has never been, the whole answer.
Coming to the conclusion that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work when all you ever did to educate yourself was watch “The Secret” 19 times (without looking at changing the habits of other areas of your life) is like coming to the conclusion that exercising is not an effective way to lose weight because all you did is run on the treadmill for 2 hours a day (but you’re still stuffing yourself with fried foods and cheesecakes).
So seek and be hungry for new knowledge. Also, make an effort to be amongst people or communities where you can support each other, learn from each other and also share new knowledge that you have found.
While the Law of Attraction is not an overnight delivery service, it will indeed deliver, if you do your part too!
Check out the site here – go to The 11 Forgotten Laws
Can hypnotism help improve your life?
Posted on April 24, 2009
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I believe it can. I believe hypnosis can change your life significantly.
After all, if you can forget about the exhibitionists at those hypnosis stage shows and just look at the medical and psychological advances, hypnosis remains a very powerful vehicle for change.
As I may have mentioned in the past, I am in a masters degree program to be a mental health counselor. As part of that training I came across a journal article mentioning hypnosis. I’ve always loved the idea of hypnosis, but had forgotten about it.
My first experience being hypnotized was just after High School in 1985 (Please, don’t do the math). I saw a hypnotist more for fun, but also to increase my study habits. I was in college and working the graveyard shift. Going to school in the morning after working all night was draining me and hurting my studies. I noticed right away my grades did improve. My understanding of the subjects got better.
Was is the hypnosis, or just the placebo effect? It doesn’t matter. It worked. I desired a result and that result was delivered.
Back to today.
I began studying hypnosis earnestly. I attended training with the American Society for Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) for basic hypnosis training back in August. Next week I am traveling to Denver to intermediate training. In addition to the live training, I’ve been gorging myself in books, videos, audios and a distance education class with HMI.
I’ve already helped two people quit smoking through hypnosis. I’m hooked!
Not only will I be a practicing counselor (intern) in a few weeks, but I also will build a small hypnosis business on the side. Once I’m a fully licensed counselor, I can add hypnotherapy to my practice in addition to my therapy skills.
But back to the question I began with:
Can hypnosis help improve your life?
Absolutely. Self hypnosis can be especially useful in changing habits, self-esteem, mood enhancement, and many other concerns.
I am so convinced that I began a new website, HypnosisCanChangeYourLife.com. I am focusing on one topic at a time there. The first topic is Smoking Cessation. I offer live or phone hypnosis. But I realize not everyone wants to try hypnosis that way. Some people want to try a recorded program instead. I listed a few of those on the site. Yes, those products have affiliate links, for now. Once I’ve recorded my own program, I’ll remove them. Stopping smoking can be as cheap as $10 for the basic recorded MP3.
Once you understand the principles behind self-hypnosis, you won’t need a recorded program: you’ll be able to solve most of your own issues yourself.
Want to try it yourself? I wrote an instructional article and placed it on Ezinearticles here: 4 Steps to Changing Your Life With Hypnosis.
Read it and tell me what you think.
Pending relaunch
Posted on April 24, 2009
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In the coming weeks I am planning a relaunch of Do You Live Or Simply Exist. Perhaps there will be a new design, and hopefully a few new faces.
Are you interested in joining the writing team?
Would you like to be involved in the redesign?
Do you have any other ideas to help make this a success?
Please use the Contact Form if you would like to be involved.
Having a place to live worth living at
Posted on May 1, 2008
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For two years I’ve live in a poorly lit, basement apartment. It served it’s purpose when I moved in, by providing me with a place to live closer to my work. My wife and I cut 60 miles a day off our daily commute by moving. With today’s gas prices, that’s easily $8 a day, $40 a week, $160 a month. Those savings aren’t huge, but they do add up.
But having a lack of sunlight can really bring a person down.
Now we’re moving again. Not another apartment – this time we own it. And there is SUNLIGHT! With plenty of windows all around to let the light in.
It’s a little farther away again, only 10 miles. But it will be worth it.
Carnival of the Life Worth Living, 1st edition
Posted on March 17, 2008
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- Michael E. Gerber
Welcome to the 1st edition of the Carnival of the Life Worth Living. I hope this will be a monthly event. What do you think? (Leave a comment, please.)
My new favorite tag line: “Life is a game where you make the rules – so why aren’t you winning?” passed on to me by Meredith Hamilton from expertcommunications.blogspot.com
There were several great submissions! I’m glad I didnt’ offer a prize for the best one – I would have had a tough time of it. There were also some sumissions which I declined to include in the carnival. Those had nothing to do with the theme of the carnival at all.
So now, in no particular order, I present to you, the
Carnival of the Life Worth Living
Dan Taylor presents Five Steps to Peace? posted at The 45-Year Old Six Pack.
Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D. presents Your Beliefs and Your Health posted at Psychology, Transformation & Freedom
Nadege presents Unlock your potential in three difficult steps (made easy). posted at Clearly Envision.
Ali Hale presents How to Stop Making Excuses and Start Making Changes posted at The Office Diet.
Madeleine Begun Kane presents Possibly Good, Albeit Annoying Advice posted at Mad Kane’s Humor Blog.
woopi clients presents VOLUNTEER PROGRAM posted at Arts and Movie Ramblings.
Mike Remer presents Wish Exercise wasn’t so Hard? | My Path To Fitness Blog posted at My Path To Fitness Blog.
Christine presents two submissions: Wants vs Needs: A Look at Personal Consumption, and Is Marriage Outdated?. Both are posted at Me, My Kid and Life: An American Single Mom Living in France.
Matthew Spears presents I ’should’ heal and grow. posted at Loving Awareness.
gia combs-ramirez presents Your Life’s Purpose posted at The Science of Energy Healing.
parna presents Is daydreaming good for you? posted at Beauty and Personal Grooming.
Rio presents Living Your Best Life posted at Get Financially Fit!.
Rose Walbrugh presents Beliefs of happy people posted at FreeMyMind.Net.
therapydoc presents Separation Anxiety posted at Everyone Needs Therapy.
David B. Bohl presents Life Balance or Life Juggling? posted at Slow Down Fast Today!.
Alvaro Fernandez presents The Power of Mindsight-by Daniel Goleman posted at Brain Fitness.
Terry presents Why Traveling Makes You A Better Person posted at Complete and Creative.
Rich Vosler presents Pruning makes growth for new life and Don’t let your struggles defeat you. Both are posted at Sales Training Tips.
Jenny presents Take Time For Yourself posted at the so called me.
Rebecca Suzanne Dean presents Why Japan, Rebecca? posted at Rebecca Dean.
Chris Guillebeau presents How to Be Unremarkably Average posted at The Art of Nonconformity.
Albert Foong presents The Art of Giving What You Don’t Have » Personal Development – The Urban Monk posted at Urban Monk.
Gary Evans presents Why Won’t The Law of Attraction Work For Me? posted at Good To Feel Good.
Dana presents Unexpected encouragement posted at Principled Discovery.
nicole presents 84 Things To Live By posted at Makeitbetter’s Weblog.
Taylor Coburn presents How Are You Dividing Your Attention? posted at Internet Business at ProcessToProfits.
Semi-Charmed Wife presents Questions That May Help You Find Your Purpose | Semi-Charmed Wife posted at Semi-Charmed Wife.
Bragoo presents We Have To Start Pushing Each Other Up The Ladder posted at Life Improvement Tips For Thin and Small People.
These are submissions that didn’t really fit. I include them here as an honorable mention.
Joshua Seth presents Leap Year Lasik and Life, Love, and Martians… posted at Joshua Seth Blog.
GP presents Montana on my Mind posted at Innstyle Montana- Come on Inn.
Rose Walbrugh presents Depression – Is a new perspective needed? posted at FreeMyMind.Net.
Dave presents Shen’s Scribbles and Thoughts: My Autobiography.. Who Am I? posted at Shen’s Scribbles and Thoughts.
Money is a tool
Posted on March 14, 2008
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Money.
It’s been called the root of all evil.
Money has never really been my friend. We’ve had more of a long-distance relationship. Everytime I wanted to get closer to money, the farther away it seemed to run. :)
As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned more about my relationship with money. I grew up with a misunderstanding about money because my parents didn’t teach me about the importance of saving or investing. I can’t blame them for it, though. They didn’t know how to use money either, so how could they have taught their children?
My family was not dirt poor, but finances were always tight. I look back on my family’s use of money, and I now understand our lack of money was not due to not having any, it was about the attitude we had about money and how we used it.
As soon as money came into our lives, it was spent right away. If somehow there was extra money, we found something to spend it on.
There was never a discussion of saving for the future. Or investing. Investing was something only rich people did because they had extra money to invest.
I’ve now learned that saving and investing is something we must all do if we ever hope to escape the rat race. I’ve learned Money is the tool we use to achieve our goals. Money, itself, should never be the goal.
Read
One way to change your view of money is to read books like The Richest Man in Babylon
Money is like a seed
Back before there were genetically engineered crops, a farmer would harvest his corn, save some of it for planting the following year, and sell or eat the remaining. If he didn’t save some seeds for the future, he would end up with nothing. He would have to go out to beg, borrow or buy more so he could feed his family. In otherwords, if he didn’t invest some of his corn this year, he couldn’t grow a crop next year.
This is the same lesson we need to know about money. Most of us (at least most of the people I have known) live paycheck to paycheck. They spend everything they make, and save nothing for the future. So they have to continually work, spend, work, spend, work …. You get the idea. But what happens when you can’t work anymore? What then?
The investment-minded worker knows to set aside a portion of his pay for the future. As described in The Richest Man in Babylon
One of the best things that happened for my future was investing in a 401k. I didn’t like it at first. It was forced on me by municipal government I worked for after college. They had no retirement plan, so everyone was forced to contribute at least 6% to a 401k. They contributed 3%. I hated it at first. Then as the money began to grow, I saw the wisdom of it. Had they not forced me to save, would I have had anything at all for my future? Probably not.
Financial education is something they don’t teach in school. I belive if every grade had a mandatory class on saving, investing, and business, we would all be better off.
It’s generally accepted that the older you get, the harder it will be to save enough. The Simple Dollar just posted this review of Start Late, Finish Rich that may give hope to those who think it’s too late.
I encourage all of you to think about your financial future. It’s never too soon. As a matter of fact, if the average 18-year-old started a reasonable retirement plan, they could retire as a millionaire without much difficulty. And if they were aggressive about it, they could retire well before the normal retirement age.
To choose life – 7 steps
Posted on March 11, 2008
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This guest post is from Fredrik Öhrn, a writer, based in Bangkok, Thailand, who blogs in English at www.careofasia.com and in Swedish at http://www.ifred.se.
I signed up for an Adventure race a while back. Adventure racing in Thailand means, Jungle- running, Mountainbiking, Kayaking, swimming and a few other surprise obstacles along the way. The duration of the race is usually somewhere around 6 hours.
So I had signed up, I ha a partner (you do adventure racing, usually in teams of two or more) and the date of the race was drawing closer. One week before, I got a cold. I was not feeling up for this race at all. Three days to go, and the cold was worse than ever.
Then I let go, I saw myself off the cold, running through the Jungle with a perfect stride, jumping on my bike just to see myself flying down (and up) the hills surrounding The River Kwai. The only thing I did not see myself doing was kayaking – but that is another story. Of course I was not going to have a cold at the time of the race.
The Race
Raceday came, it had been raining heavily the day before and we were all kind of excited to get muddy, working ourself through the jungle and The River.
The race started at 8.40 – we all took off on our bikes, after about 20 minutes we reached the first transition area and we switched to running.
No trails, just trees, leaves and grass. And hills. It started going uphill shortly after the start, up, up and up. Exhusting most of the time and at times it was tricky to get by the rolling rocks without causing an avalanche. We had to run with our helmets on for protection – but there is really only so much a bicycle helmet can do against falling rocks after all.
We reached a part where it flattened out a bit and we got on a nice trail, I was feeling strong and took a moment to look around – WOW! Fantastic! It was almost like running indoors, in a corridor. Bamboo trees covering both the sides of the trail and we were almost totally covered by the same trees from above, it was magic.
We were jogging, not very fast, I got goosebumps all over my body – there I was running in the jungle, beautiful landscape surrounding me, I felt good, this is life – I am truly alive!
We finished the run, got back on our bikes and rode them to the river.
The River Kwai
Everyone knows about this river, everyone has seen the movie, heard about the bridge and we all know the name of this river. The River – The River Kwai.
We stopped for some drinking water, got ourselves a kayak and jumped in. We were now paddling on the River Kwai.
My arms started aching after about 7 minutes in the kayak, the trip down the river became more of a pain that it should have been. It was quiet, we passed a couple of beautiful monestaries where the nuns were sitting on huge porches overlooking the river, probably wondering what we all were doing.
I could have told them: We were alive and kicking, having a blast, feeling the pain in our bodies and enjoying it, thanks to the endorphines, the river, the mountains and the great outdoors.
After kayaking and then swimming in the same river, we went on a long jungle run, running in rivers, climbing rope ladders and at times it felt like you were on a set of an old Vietnam-war movie, minus the guns.
We finished the race after 5 hours and 21 minutes in 6th place out of many teams. We were tired and we were hungry but very happy!
Sometimes you have to take the effort, to sign up, buy the ticket, get out of the couch, turn off your TV, go somewhere and see something different. It may be a struggle at first, you might be a little bit intimidated or even afraid, but do it anyway. It will put a big smile on your face and you will feel so much more alive afterwards that you would wonder why you even considered not doing it.
The 7 steps:
1. Pick a goal
2. Make necessary preparations
3. Take small steps towards your goal
4. As you approach it – make sure you are relaxed.
5. Have fun along the way, feel how you are alive.
6. Have fun reaching the goal
7. Enjoy finding a new goal and a new challenge.
This is true for any goal as well as for life – it’s really 7 steps – where the goal is what you want to do with your life. Don’t feel stressed, feel relaxed and keep taking small steps towards your goal.
Fredrik Öhrn
Playing with the advertising widget
Posted on March 6, 2008
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I added something fun to the 125 x 125 pixel ads you see on the right sidebar. The 6th spot will rotate randomly. At least 5, but no more than 24 ads will be held in the ‘Random Queue’ to be selcted from.
I thought it would be entertaining (for me anyway) and economical (for advertisers).
If you are interested in advertising rates or blog stats, click here.
Lessons from roleplaying
Posted on March 6, 2008
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I was sad to find out Gary Gygax had died. Gygax was a co-creator of the game Dungeons and Dragons. I never looked up to him like a hero or anything, but I have always been appreciative of what roleplaying has done for my life.
I was a very shy kid in Jr. High. I didn’t really come out of my shell until High School, when I started roleplaying. I became one of those AD&D geeks.
I played AD&D through High School and for several years thereafter when I joined the Air Force. I played with different groups of people from all over the country and outside our country.
Why am I telling you this? Because believe roleplaying games are one way to develop imagination and social skills. I know, I know. You’re probably thinking, “Geeks are not known for their social skills.” Let me give you an example.
Roleplaying games are good for development
In Jr. High when it came time for speech class, I was frozen. I mumbled my speech, couldn’t make eye contact, and my heart would nearly beat out of my chest. I hated public speaking. Outside of the classroom I didn’t make eye contact with others. I didn’t feel comfortable speaking to people I didn’t know, or even those I kinda knew.
Then, as I began to roleplay, I found it easier to speak in front of groups. It was simple: I just had to pretend it wasn’t me speaking. I became someone else, a politician, a wiseman, an expert. I even pretended to be someone else who was pretending to be me, if that makes any sense. I “steped out of myself” and in so doing, I left my fear of speaking behind.
Soon, public speaking became natural. Eventually I realized I wasn’t even pretending anymore. It was me speaking. And I liked it.
Some could say it wasn’t roleplaying in particular that helped me overcome my fear of public speaking, but just the fact that I joined a social group that happended to be composed of roleplayers. Joining a social groups is one of the points Scott Young writes about in his post You Won’t Get Anywhere With Poor Social Skills at Pick The Brain.
I choose to believe it was roleplaying, at least in my case.
Develop creativity
Roleplaying games helped develop a my creativity. Soon, instead of playing in a game, I was running them. I was devising my own adventures for groups of friends. I even created a series of adventures based on the book, The Shattered World
My creative nature has helped me to “think outside of the box” on many projects in my career. I’ve often been complimented, and given an occasional reward, for my creative approaches to problems.
I don’t believe I would have followed the same path had I not been a roleplayer. I have no idea where I would have ended up if I hadn’t been able to overcome my fear of public speaking. Maybe I would have overcome it another way, but I’m not so sure. I know that roleplaying helped exercise and develop my creative nature.
It’s now been years since I’ve played. I’ve grown out of it I guess.
Thank you, Gary Gygax. Your spearheading the table-top roleplaying genre helped one shy kid become a self-confident man.
Readers, tell me, what is your experience with roleplaying games?
Problogger traffic spike
Posted on March 4, 2008
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My recent guest post on Problogger.net was good for traffic over all. The graphic at the top is the statistics from the wordpress dashboard. The lower graphic is from statcounter.com. I believe the difference in the count is due to statistcs be gathered in different timezones.
The end result: 2 to 3 times more daily visitors and RSS subscribers.
Thank you all for coming!
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