Archive for the 'Life' Category

Having a place to live worth living at

For two years I’ve live in a poorly lit, basement apartment. It served it’s purpose when I moved in, by providing me with a place to live closer to my work. My wife and I cut 60 miles a day off our daily commute by moving. With today’s gas prices, that’s easily $8 a day, $40 a week, $160 a month. Those savings aren’t huge, but they do add up.

But having a lack of sunlight can really bring a person down.

Now we’re moving again. Not another apartment - this time we own it. And there is SUNLIGHT! With plenty of windows all around to let the light in.

It’s a little farther away again, only 10 miles. But it will be worth it.

Taking advantage of your gifts

I like to write. I can’t say that I am “gifted,” but I like to write more than most of the people I know. Writing is something that I enjoy… when I can get around to it. Writing is something I hate… when I am forced to write.

Many of you, I’m sure, know just what I’m talking about: Sit down and write about something YOU want to write about, and you could go on all day. But sit down to write a report for school, or a freelance assignment for someone else, and suddenly writing becomes a chore.

Recently I’ve wondered, do I want to try to be a full-time freelancer? Full-time freelancing would give me some of the freedom I’ve been seeking. It’s a way to earn money from anywhere, without having to be tied to a specific place.

I own the “Well Fed Writer” books. Commercial freelance writing seems like a lucrative way of earning money writing as well - if it really is all it’s cracked up to be.

This will be a difficult decision to make. I can try full-time freelancing and travel everywhere I’ve always wanted to travel, but possibly have little in the way of insurance or benefits. Or I can stay put in my cushy government job with it’s great benefits, but end up living the clichéd “life of quiet desperation.”

I guess what I look at it like that, the decision becomes a little easier. I need to locate freelancing opportunities.

“Every man dies. Not every man truly lives.”

“Every man dies. Not every man truly lives.” - William Wallace (Mel Gibson) from the movie, Braveheart.

I read Wallace’s words recently and thought what a true statement that is. Not only did I read them, but they stung because I knew I was one of those men.

And I hated it.

I planned to do just what every self-improvement book/blog says to do: Plan your future, TAKE ACTION, then review and change as needed. I put that on my list of “important things to do.”

It’s been weeks since I planed that. It somehow turned into my “someday” list.

Again, I was stung, like a slap on the face, when I read Starting a New Year with Death over at Pick the Brain.

I had fallen right into the Myth of Someday. I’ll do that ‘Someday.’ I really want to go there ‘Someday.’ ‘Someday’ I tell them how I really feel about them.

But sometimes ‘Someday’ never comes. In the last two years I lost my father and a grandmother (in law). The insurance commercial says, “Life comes at you fast.” So does death.

I’m not going to be one of those people that looks back and sees a mountain of regrets and unfulfilled desires. So after weeks of delay, I have my plan.

Step one: Decide what I want.
That is both the easiest and the hardest step. It’s easy when you finally decide to sit down and evaluate what you want. It’s hard to push everything else out of your mind so it doesn’t get in the way of what you want.

For example, it’s easy for a mountain of bills to affect your decision of what you want. You just want a way to earn more money to pay the bills.

So here’s what I have come up with: I want to go where I want, when I want, and for as long as I want. When I come home, I want a secure home to return to.

Step two: Find out how to become a location independent professional.
I will do research to find jobs I can do from anywhere. By April 1, 2008 I will have decided what method or methods I will use and will have begun putting them into action. Whether it’s working online, freelance writing, whatever. By January 1, 2009, A majority of my income will be online.

Step three: Decide where to travel or live.
I already know my wife wants to live in France. And why not? We spent 10 days there on vacation in 2007. It was a great time. Once we are established there, the rest of Europe will be close at hand.

Step four: Take Action
This is the most important step. Plans without actions are just daydreams. I will begin this plan immediately. I don’t have forever.

From the book, Wanderer, By Sterling Hayden.

“What does a man need - really need? A few pounds of food each day, heat and shelter, six feet to lie down in - and some form of working activity that will yield a sense of accomplishment. That’s all - in the material sense, and we know it. But we are brainwashed by our economic system until we end up in a tomb beneath a pyramid of time payments, mortgages, preposterous gadgetry, playthings that divert our attention for the sheer idiocy of the charade

The years thunder by, The dreams of youth grow dim where they lie caked in dust on the shelves of patience. Before we know it, the tomb is sealed.

Where, then, lies the answer? In choice. Which shall it be: bankruptcy of purse or bankruptcy of life?”

This post begins the series: Journey to Independence. I will add to this series over the coming months to track my progress in becoming location independent.

Leave your comments. What does it means to you to truly live? What advice would you give others on this subject?

Do you live your LIFE the same way you drive your CAR?

If you’ve ever driven long distance on a quiet road, you may know what it means to be “road hypnotized” - that state of being where you are simply driving, with no real awareness of your surroundings. You might be passing a beautiful countryside, but it passes by unnoticed. Your mind is lost in the simple act of driving.

That is how many people go through life.

Many people simply EXIST. They go through their day-to-day routines just as they did the day before, and the day before that, and the day before that. You could say many people are “life hypnotized.” They have forgotten the basic truth that life is not a destination, but a journey.

WAKE UP!

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Life should never be an uneventful, boring ride ending in a 6-foot drop in a wooden box. That’s not the way I want my journey to go, and neither should you.

Life should be an extraordinary journey, filled with one happy memory after another. The journey should be an exploration of the world around you, never missing a moment, never missing the opportunity to find a new friend or a new experience.

Many of us don’t even realize we are in a rut until it’s too late. In the book, Wanderer, Sterling Hayden writes, “We are brainwashed by our economic system until we end up in a tomb beneath a pyramid of time payments, mortgages, preposterous gadgetry, playthings that divert our attention for the sheer idiocy of the charade.”

Hayden ends the passage, saying that each of us has a choice: “Bankruptcy of purse, or bankruptcy of life.” Here’s where I disagree with him. I don’t believe a rich, fulfilling life must mean poor in money and security.

I think it’s possible to have both.

What are you waiting for?

Is is possible to live such a life? Absolutely.

  • Resolve, TODAY, to enjoy the little things in life.
  • Decide what kind of life you want. If you are unsure, use the list of 100 items technique to help decide.
  • Seek advice from others who are living the way you want to live.
  • Read action manuals to help you along the way. (I suggest The 6-Week Extreme Life Makeover)
  • Most importantly, TAKE ACTION! Life doesn’t happen on it’s own. You must make it happen.

To LIFE!

How to live a better life

Happiness is a direction, not a place.
- Sydney J. Harris

Where do you find happiness?

For far too long I’ve looked, occasionally finding it, but often lost in the perpetual search.

Like the song, Looking for love in all the wrong places, my search for happiness had me searching for a place, a thing, a possession, an object, a job that would make me happy. Once I found these things, my happiness slowely waned.

I’ve come to realize it was the journey, not the goal, that makes one happy. The wanting of something, and the search to get it can be more fulfilling than having it.

Too many people never search for happiness. They are trapped in the cycle of simple EXISTENCE. The same cycle I have been trapped in for so long.

Far, far, to long I simply went from work to home to work to home, completely missing the point of living: to LIVE. To EXPERIENCE.

I agree with tealtan at Walking Through Glass when he says “…it’s annoying to see people whose PENTULTIMATE GOAL IN LIFE is to lead “as normal a life as possible”.”

Normalcy is not living. Normal is that boring sidewalk that leads, not to where to want to go, but the path that convinces you: This is where you need to be.

To fight normality and find happiness requires you to step off that path. To politely ignore when your friends and family tell you to get back on the path like everyone else. It requires risk! For only those who take risks “… shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

  • Carpe Diem - sieze the day. The only thing in life you can be absolutely certain of, is that it will end. Use this day to LIVE.
  • Make a list those things you want to accomplish. Then start checking them off. Don’t be afraid to add to it or delete from it when needed, but always strive to have a list of accomplishments that you can look back on one day and say “This was my life”.
  • Forget petty differences. You are who you are and so is the guy next to you. Forget the little things that set you apart from him. Hold out your hand, introduce yourself and learn his story. Build a friendship with a great many people.
  • Do you have a purpose? If not, find it. (A topic for another post). Do that which you where meant to do.
  • Live with the end in mind. No one wants to think about their final journey being a six foot drop in a wooden box. Instead of ignoring it, accept it. We each have only a limited number of hours. How many of them do you want to waste waiting for the end. USE THEM!

To LIFE!

An evening with Tommy Chong and his wife Shelby

tommychong-small.jpgOver the weekend, I saw Tommy Chong & his wife Shelby at a comedy club. They were quite funny! (Chong as in Cheech & Chong.)

At first, I was concerned because it seemed every joke was drug related. But then I thought to myself, of couse, dummy. Chong’s entire career has been as a hippy/druggie. That’s all people know him for. It would be silly for him to try to pass off any other kind of comedy act.


He autographed my ticket for free, but the photo was $10. Oh well. I can live with that.

Do something rewarding and help the environment

Wooded path
Photo by guylaine_b

Do something rewarding today.

Today is Blog Action Day. Today is the day where bloggers will promote the environment, in some way.

I’m not an envioronmental junkie (although my sister-in-law is. One day I’ll tell you about her.), but there is a simple and rewarding way to combine our goal of LIVING and doing something for the environment.
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Go for a walk.

You heard me correctly. Go for a walk. Leave behind the stress of everything. Take along a trash bag and pick up a few things to make the path look a little better.

Concentrate on being in the moment on your walk. Be mindful of everything around you. Experience the day, the trees, the sun (or rain), everything. Be “in to” what you are doing. In other words, LIVE in the moment.

How to be happy???

What makes us happy? Is it money? A thing? A loved one? The answer lies within us. Each of us will have a different answer. The real question, however, is “Is what you are doing, getting you what you want?”
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Dead man walking?

Sidewalk in the sand
Photo by Orin Optiglot

Have you ever looked back at your life to see what you have experienced? To see what you have accomplished?

I took that look. In a similar vein to the poem “Footprints in the sand,” I honestly expected to see my tracks, my footprints, wildly exploring the sandy beach of life. I expected to see my tracks leading to accomplishments, fond memories, and a sense of satisfaction. Read more »